Anonymous asked:

Ever since the day we met, I knew you had to be the one for me. You are a beautiful, talented person, and when I'm with you, I don't feel so cold. Will you marry me? --Jack Frost.

Anonymous asked:

I'm ftm, pre-everything, and struggling with depression to boot. I'm on anti-depressants, but I have a psychriatic evaluation scheduled that I /think/ applies to both aspects I've told you about. I'm really nervous because lately I've been thinking I should just pretend to be a girl, and I don't want that to affect the evaluation. The depression has also eased because someone who was making it worse has eased up. How do I emphasize my seriousness without hurting myself with bad memories?

If your psychiatrist is worth the degree that they were given, they will understand the idea of being in the closet and your need to protect yourself by pretending to be female.  Anyone who has read the statistics on trans* discrimination would understand that need. 

Unfortunately, the communicate your mental state, you’ll have to tell the psychiatrist as much as you can.  If you’re able, you should plan to give yourself a treat after the evaluation.  Pick your favorite person and go to your favorite restaurant.  Go to the movies.  Go do something you would normally talk yourself out of because of excess and let yourself have it because your day sucked and you deserve it.

Hopefully, that will take the edge off the pain that might be dredged up during the evaluation.  Be strong and know that I, and I know many of my followers, are rooting for you and can’t wait for the day that you become the person you were always meant to be. <3

Anonymous asked:

is it wrong for me to get ridiculously annoyed when i see people who are depressed or have like self esteem that is so low it could bust through to the center of the earth saying making great achievements but giving themselves no credit instead they say god made me achieve this i got lucky. and i sit there wanting to scream NO it was not luck it was all you because you are amazing at what you do give yourself some credit because you are a great person. its just sad to see and cause they dont see

Basically, you’re annoyed because you want people to recognize their own value?  No, I don’t think it’s wrong to feel that way.  Now how you act on it is another story.  But it seems to me you’re not mad at the person but at whatever has caused them to deny credit to themselves.

I think that’s a good thing that you want people to recognize their own talents and achievements and maybe you should channel that annoyance into writing them notes or telling them how proud you are of them and how special they are.

Anonymous asked:

you want the WIS?

I get a +7 to all WIS rolls so I was thinking I’d just spread the wealth.

Anonymous asked:

how do you deal with tumblr when it gets very..."preachy" i think is the best word for it about any point of view religion being one of them and another being the well obsession tumblr has with gay people to the point where its like a fetish lil straight girls where they aren't happy until they can make every relationship into two men having sex. i have no problem with it but its simply the way its done on tumblr its just...excessive like two people cant be friends or not even interested anymore

I think the first thing you should ask yourself is, is it hurting you or is it just annoying you?  If it’s hurting you, as in causing you emotional distress or to feel oppressed (i.e. who you are is being censored and discounted) or oppressing people you consider yourself allied to, I would say something.

If, however, it’s just irritating, I would keep it to myself as a mature person has to do sometimes.  For example, shipping isn’t inherently wrong.  It can be taken to wrong places but most of what I see is just people having fun playing matchmaker.

My suggestion as far as shipping go is to download Tumblr Savior and start putting ship names in for it to block so you just don’t have to see it.

Anonymous asked:

I've got a coworker who likes to tell racist jokes. He tells them about a whole bunch of different races, and when I protest, he says that he's not racist, he hates everybody equally. Any ideas what one might say to him before I succumb to my base desires and punch him in the face?

Next time he tells a racist joke, give him a blank stare and say “I don’t get it.”

Insist you don’t get it until he is forced to explain the joke.

In explaining the joke, he will sound extremely racist to himself, to you and to anyone listening.

The more people present the better.

Repeat this process until he’s too uncomfortable to tell jokes around you anymore.

This response may seem humorous and it is, but it actually works.  He’ll even probably get angry at your sudden denseness but just stick to your story:  You don’t get it.  After all, he’s telling the obvious lie of not being racist, so you can lie about being oblivious to the punchlines of all his jokes.

In the very least, you are now free from his joke telling.  At the most, he may be forced to look at himself and what he says differently.

Anonymous asked:

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I think I subconciously ignored these on purpose.

Anonymous asked:

Someone, somewhere really likes your blog, and they want you to know it! This is the anonymous revolution! If you want to take part just send this message to the blogs you love. It's a little thing that will brighten their day, and hopefully make up for all the anon hate that is everywhere on tumblr. If you love someone's blog, spread the word. One message at a time we can make tumblr a kinder place.

If you couldn’t tell, I’m sorting through my overstuffed inbox and catching all these asks I missed.

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Anonymous asked:

It's one thing to treat all men as potential rapists, it's quite another to assume that all men see women as a rewards system. Just because movies and books tell us one thing doesn't mean that all men agree. In fact, I know quite a lot of guys who don't think that way. Treat men however you want, but don't pretend that we're all the same.

It’s called conditioning and internalized sexism.  Maybe you should study what privilege is more?

Anonymous asked:

What is it about "profiling a group of people due to the actions of a few is wrong" that you don't agree with? Based directly on your logic, I have every right to fear being robbed by any black person I meet because they are the majority of those who commit robbery and I can't be sure of their intentions. Your post on male privilege was thought provoking but you end up excusing people's irrational hatred of a gender due to actions of a very small group of awful people. Bigotry is bigotry.

I’d like to see your statistics on the “fact” that black people commit the most crimes because the last time I looked at crime statistics, that was actually false.

You’re right.  Bigotry is bigotry.

You have assumed black people as the majority of criminals because you’ve heard that from the racist majority.

And frankly, you have a right to be afraid of anyone who you feel may do you harm.

Also, I never used the term hatred.  I used dislike.  I said I could be wary of all men or view them as potential rapists.  I do not hate all men.  I, in fact, tend to like men on first meeting more than I like most women.

I think you’re skewing what I’m saying for your own purposes here…

Anonymous asked:

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Anonymous asked:

Dif anon... don't you want to support a POC woman being cast in a major iconic role?

Does it freak you guys out when I don’t have opinions on stuff or something?

I would like to support that, yes, but I think anyone who thinks that her casting won’t dissolve into some kind of problematic sexism or racism or both on the show is very naive or at least less jaded than I am.

In fact, I’d be willing to wager money that the show starts off on a positive note and midseason gets problematic as shit.

In the same ways that BBC Sherlock queerbaits and demonstrates problematic attitudes towards women, Elementary is going to fuck up and be problematic at some point.  It just is.

Because privileged, white, male writers always find a way to minimize the accomplishments, character or humanity of characters that aren’t exactly like them.

So yes, I’d love to celebrate Lucy getting such an iconic role and traditionally masculine parts being given to a woman, but

they’re

going

to

fuck

it

up.

So back to the apathy corner for me.

Anonymous asked:

So can I assume your lack of commentary on Elementary means you find it homophobic and aren't going to watch it?

… Am… Am I not allowed to be apathetic about the show?  I don’t mind that it exists and when people post about it I get to look a Lucy Liu’s pretty face.

I don’t want to watch it either.

Completely

totally

apathetic.

Though I have seen some posts which I feel mow down the thoughts and feelings of the queer community, but I also think the argument that subtext is important enough to uphold is a weak one.  *shrug*

I seriously couldn’t care less about Elementary.

Anonymous asked:

Random question: is it bad that I get bothered or even angry at people who assume that I, as a woman, like/plan to have children? e.g. "Oh, when you have kids you'll understand" etc really rustles my jimmies

No, because it’s the assumption that that’s your ultimate goal in life.  Anyone with kids can tell you that once you have them, they are a full time job (if you’re raising them the way you should) and anything you do alongside that is a whole other job.  So in order to do the things your passionate about, you have to work that much harder.

It makes it seem like that’s all your REALLY good for.  Anything you have planned now is fine but in the end you’re going to have a kid because that’s what you do.  You’re a woman.

It’s pretty insulting, and this is coming from someone who wants ALL the babies.

And you know what, maybe later you will decide to have kids but people shouldn’t assume that’s all you’re worth.

Anonymous asked:

Is it possible to be sexist against men? Is it possible to be racist against white people?

… I waffle a lot on the first one.  The answer to the first one, in my mind, right now, is yes, it is.

It is possible for men to be denied the ability to participate in this traditionally deemed as “feminine” by other men.  While men typically perpetuate this “femininity is bad” trope, both men and women uphold it.  In that sense, I think if you are actively denying a man the right to do things that are deemed “feminine” by society, you are being sexist towards him as either a man or a woman.

But it could be said that a man’s inability to be able to “act like a woman” is a symptom of sexism against women, which is true, so I go back and forth on that one a lot.  It’s not as clear cut as the second question in my mind.

I do not believe it is possible to be racist to a white person.  There is nothing a PoC can do that a white can’t also do without social repercussions.  There are lots of things PoCs can’t do that white people can without being treated like scum for it.

And to me, racism is an irrational hatred of someone for their race.  If I was a PoC, I think if I hated white people, it wouldn’t be a huge jump of logic to do so.  They fuck shit up for PoCs all the time.  They have every reason to be biased.

Is that bias sometimes carried out in ways that could be deemed too far?  Yes.  An example is maybe school children who are PoCs beating up white children for being white.

However, it’s not racism against white people, it’s an effect caused by racism against PoCs.